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Where to start. Valentines past? Whining for current romance.? Silly whims and dreams of romantic woman?

I come to the impending holiday of Love with mixed emotions. I love making heart crafts with the spawn. I dread hearing over the top love stories though. The remind me of failures and disappointments.

I got engaged in a surprise on Valentines Day. My boyfriend was scheduled to work it, so he came over that night with a teddy bear for me. I though that was so adorable. He came over to my window late at night very romeo and Juliet style, just to make sure I got it on midnight. I went to sleep happy. I was awoken the next morning to a call from the BF saying he needed me at his house urgently. I got there as fast as I could. I walked into the home and roses where everywhere. candles to. Turns out he didn't have to work and want to propose. (insert the awwwww). To bad that relationship when down in flames like the Hindenburg.

Fast forward to my Husband. Romance is not his thing. I know that, but I didn't realize that our engagement would have the emotions of shame, sadness, and crippling self worth. Not things you want with a happy time that it is supposed to be. From a cheap tiny ring that was almost the same as my previous promise ring from the ex-(and not my style) to the get it handed to me while watching move credits (no big will you question all girls dream of) to well we gotta keep this secret to my parents as your aren't good enough for them. Oh it was magical alright, especially knowing he was staying with his crush over this same time period and getting to here how beautiful and wonderful she is. I was pretty much ready to find a gun and go all Jeremy from Pearl Jam on myself. I still struggle with this.  So yeah Happy Valentines day.

Women only good for beauty?

Sometimes are culture sucks ass, and not in a kinky way that would earn you fame in the porn world. Women are pretty much valued for well being pretty. Brains, naw, it is all about plastic tits, as real ones would be too saggy, uneven, or too small. When the world waits with with bated breathe for the latest Sports Illustrated Swimsuit edition or the Victoria Secret fashion show, we judge India for gruesome rapes and treatment of their women, with an air superiority. Studies have proved that beautiful women get promoted over those that may be more qualified. We honor beauty with endless money and fame. We live in a society where multiple woman have gotten famous for nothing more than sex tapes.

Just this week Chicago fans mocked a cheer leader for being "ugly", as that was a major sin. Truth is she looked like your average girl, no fake boobs, eyelashes, hair, or tan.
http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/nfl-shutdown-corner/former-packers-cheerleader-takes-facebook-cyberbullying-223252996--nfl.html

How about change the image described in the book of the main character to make her look "sexy" even if it looks nothing like the author described?
http://www.buzzfeed.com/ellievhall/anne-of-green-gables-is-a-sexy-blonde-on-the-cover-of-a-new


 If we want to bash a woman call her ugly or fat.
http://www.contracostatimes.com/breaking-news/ci_22552232/hicks-melissa-mccarthys-weight-targeted-nasty-rex-reed?source=rss


  I pity girls and young women growing up today. We have such a warped sense of beauty and gender. From fake hair, make-up and even push-up bras for 4 year old in toddler pageants to every major magazine publishing the latest female celebrity in a bikini and judging too fat or thin, we have let down all the women who worked so hard to earn respect. When will women take back their own gender? When will we stop posing? When will we respect our bodies and insist others due as well. I am not a conservative nor a feminist, but just want women to be more than to be judged on if they fit into our narrow ideals.